I’ve been with my partner for 5 years and it’s only in the last few months that we’ve been properly experimenting with anal play. We attempted anal sex a couple of times a few years ago with varying results and in the end decided that it was too much hassle and I found it more uncomfortable than a pleasurable. In the meantime I experimented a bit by myself and then my partner started hinting at trying again so this time round I thought I’d do my homework!
I found the majority of information on the internet not very helpful – it was all either too vague with not enough detail or explicit horror stories… really not what I was looking for! Then I stumbled across this book and decided to invest in it – it turned out to be exactly what I was looking for.
‘The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women’ by Tristan Taormino is an absolutely brilliant resource for anyone with an interest in anal play of any description. I had already read some of Taormino’s other work so was familiar with her writing style which is informative and educational yet informal and even a bit sexy.
The book is divided up into 19 chapters; starting with dispelling common myths about anal sex, then covering topics such as anatomy, the emotional and psychological aspects, health and hygiene, safer sex and STDs, how to use anal sex toys safely, various sex acts from rimming and fingering to strapon sex and fisting, BDSM and even a little chapter on anal pleasure for men.
Each chapter is very thorough and detailed, featuring useful yet humorous illustrations and sections entitled “Ask the Anal Advisor” which feature some of the more unusual questions people have asked with honest and frank answers from Taormino. The book is also littered with sexy little quotes and anecdotes related to the chapter from sex industry experts and journalists such as Nina Hartley (pornographic actress, director, author and educator) and Susan Crain Bakos (author of ‘The Sex Bible’).
I have found this book invaluable. Before I read it I wasn’t really sure what I was doing or where I was going in regards to anal sex. This book has made me a lot more confident sexually and it has answered all the questions and dispelled any worries or hang ups I had about the practice. Taormino is so positive and passionate about the subject of anal eroticism she has completely eradicated any underlying guilt I may have had about enjoying it – thank you Tristan! I found the book to be very easy reading and I finished it over two days, I enjoyed it that much.
The book particularly enforces the fact that anal play should not be painful and that the key is a lot of warming up and relaxation, something that makes perfect sense but due to previous misinformation I thought discomfort was part of the process and that you “get used to it” – NOT so!
Reading this book has really broadened my horizons and totally changed my sex life. I can now put things up my butt with confidence and can honestly say that I can thoroughly appreciate and enjoy receiving anal sex. My partner is certainly not complaining…
I highly recommend ‘The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women’ to anyone curious about giving it a go – you never know, you might discover a new favourite thing!
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When she's not writing she can be found frequenting cocktail bars with her wonderful other half, cuddling with her pet parrots or on stage performing burlesque.